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I'd like to talk if you're open to it.\" That's enough. The conversation can happen from there.",{"type":50,"tag":58,"props":122,"children":124},{"id":123},"if-the-friendship-is-genuinely-over",[125],{"type":55,"value":126},"If the Friendship Is Genuinely Over",{"type":50,"tag":51,"props":128,"children":129},{},[130],{"type":55,"value":131},"Grief is appropriate here. A long friendship that ends represents real shared history, real investment, real loss. The fact that it's a friendship and not a romantic relationship doesn't make the loss smaller — it just makes it less recognized by others.",{"type":50,"tag":51,"props":133,"children":134},{},[135],{"type":55,"value":136},"Give yourself the same latitude you'd give for any significant ending. 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