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Over time it usually produces either a relationship where one person carries all the unaddressed concerns, or a rupture when suppressed issues eventually surface.",{"type":48,"tag":49,"props":93,"children":95},{"id":94},"what-to-do-instead",[96],{"type":54,"value":97},"What to Do Instead",{"type":48,"tag":87,"props":99,"children":100},{},[101],{"type":54,"value":102},"The goal isn't conflict for its own sake — it's addressing things that matter before they compound. A useful reframe: raising a concern early, when it's small, is less disruptive than not raising it until it's large.",{"type":48,"tag":87,"props":104,"children":105},{},[106],{"type":54,"value":107},"Start with low-stakes practice. Express a preference or a minor concern in a situation where the stakes are manageable. Build evidence that saying something doesn't automatically lead to the worst outcome. 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