[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":200},["ShallowReactive",2],{"blog-wellness-signs-of-a-healthy-relationship":3},{"_path":4,"_dir":5,"_draft":6,"_partial":6,"_locale":7,"title":8,"description":9,"datePublished":10,"canonical":11,"readTime":12,"category":5,"faq":13,"relatedPosts":26,"body":36,"_type":193,"_id":194,"_source":195,"_file":196,"_stem":197,"_extension":198,"sitemap":199},"\u002Fblog\u002Fwellness\u002Fsigns-of-a-healthy-relationship","wellness",false,"","Signs of a Healthy Relationship (Beyond Just \"No Red Flags\")","A healthy relationship isn't just the absence of problems — it has specific positive qualities. 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And they can too.",{"type":40,"tag":56,"props":160,"children":162},{"id":161},"on-conflict-specifically",[163],{"type":45,"value":164},"On Conflict Specifically",{"type":40,"tag":41,"props":166,"children":167},{},[168],{"type":45,"value":169},"A healthy relationship doesn't mean no conflict — it means conflict is handled in a way that doesn't damage either person or the relationship. The research of relationship psychologist John Gottman identifies four patterns that predict relationship failure: contempt, criticism (of character, not behavior), stonewalling, and defensiveness. A healthy relationship isn't free of disagreement; it's largely free of these four.",{"type":40,"tag":41,"props":171,"children":172},{},[173],{"type":45,"value":174},"In practice: both people can say \"this bothered me\" without it becoming an attack or being dismissed. 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