Free Relationship Tools & Quizzes

Research-based, instant results, and none of them ask for your email. Everything runs in your browser.

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Attachment Style Quiz

Find where you sit on the anxiety and avoidance dimensions — the two-axis model attachment researchers actually use. 12 scenario questions.

12 questions · ~3 min · no email
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Text Decoder

Paste a conversation, get interest, effort, warmth, and consistency scores plus named patterns — dry texting, breadcrumbing, hot-and-cold. Nothing leaves your browser.

instant · 100% private · rules-based
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Relationship Red Flags Checker

30 red flags ranked by severity, from communication patterns to abuse indicators — with a live severity read as you check.

30 items · instant score · private
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Should We Break Up? Quiz

A structured check-in across connection, conflict health, and effort balance — a reflection, not a verdict.

12 questions · ~3 min · private
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Is It Gaslighting? Checker

A 20-point reality check built on DARVO research — including how to tell gaslighting from a normal disagreement.

20 items · honest · private
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Response Time Decoder

What taking hours to reply actually means — reads speed against reply quality and their own baseline, not timestamps alone.

instant read · no inputs stored
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Am I in a Situationship? Quiz

Ten questions that measure the one thing situationships are made of: ambiguity.

10 questions · ~2 min
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Does He Like Me? Quiz

Reads behavior, not minds: initiation, memory, effort, plans. Honest, not flattering.

10 questions · ~2 min
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Am I the Problem? Quiz

An honest self-check on defensiveness, scorekeeping, and apologies. Courage required.

10 questions · ~2 min
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Am I Ready for a Relationship? Quiz

Measures readiness, not worthiness: processed past, stable life, real friendships, direct communication.

10 questions · ~2 min

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